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Five for Friday :: Chaos Edition

September 9, 2011 2 Comments by Ashley @ Nourishing the Soul


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So we’re hopefully moving to a new home in a couple of weeks and so the process of dismantling, wrapping, and packing is under full swing. Our home looks like the inside of a Home Depot right now, and it’s certainly trying on every last bit of my patience and energy reserve to manage living like this. I’ve added it up and realized that I officially moved every year for the past ten years (two of those years twice!), and so the process of bubble wrapping my life isn’t new to me. Despite the familiarity of it all, chaos never comes easy to me.

It’s something I’ve learned about myself and I’ve come to appreciate even. I like structure. I like order. I like predictability and organization and tradition. I like to know what I can expect. And I like being able to get to my bedroom or stove without stubbing my toe. Is that too much to ask?

In the midst of moving, yes it is. So I’m practicing flexibility and focusing on what’s important – the fact that, hopefully, I can soon settle into a new home that I won’t be moving out of for a good, long while.

How do you handle the stress of moving? Or when your life is in more chaos than you’d like?

One thing that I’ve found that helps me is to stick to routines in other areas of my life. One of those has become writing this Five for Friday post. It keeps me connected and engaged and often smiling at the brilliance of other writers. So without further ado, here’s my top five for this week:


  • Over at the Daily Garnish, Emily is getting close the end of her pregnancy and reflecting on her experience of listening to her body in a new way.
  • Mina Samuels writes a riveting post on Run Like a Girl about not finishing a race… and what exactly she learned. (It’s a lot!) A teaser: We didn’t force the run. Like water encountering an obstacle, we flowed around the challenges, finding the most natural course for that day.
  • The plight of men facing cultural standards of beauty are too easily forgotten, and so posts like this one on bitchmedia are so important.
  • I thought this piece was just so fascinating that I’ve been sharing it everywhere! Alexander Edmonds explores the intersection of culture, class, and beauty on the New York Times Opinionator. Take a (long) peek.
  • Over on Adios Barbie, Quinn Davis questions (and answers) whether you can be a feminist and wear mascara. What do you think?


Reader Comment of the Week :: Claire on You’re so vain – you probably think this post is about you.

Honestly I think some of my eating issues were the opposite of pride. Seems to me vanity is pretending you have what you don’t but pride is about celebrating being you (not a bad thing I’d say). What I was trying to do was hide – to be less me. Now I want to be more me and that includes being authentic in what I eat. Also, and I just realised this, I’ve been crashing around a lot lately really enjoying making a noise – It’s about me saying ‘I’m here! I’m not hiding any more.’ Does this mean I am more proud of being me – sure does!



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  1. Robyn
    4 years ago


    Good Luck moving! It is a big and chaotic job. I agree with you … I too like structure, order, organization and tradition. I like to know what I can expect. The Hubby does a great job of helping me simplify things and I am learning to take a deep breath and know the world is not coming to an end when spontanious is tossed my way. I have grown a lot!

    Excellent Reader Comment of the Week!
    Robyn recently posted..Friday … That Pretty Much Sums It Up


  2. Kat
    4 years ago

    I recently moved (less than a month ago) from an apartment to a house, so I definitely can relate to this. Especially since I also do not like the feeling that I’m living in chaos… When I moved in I put away all the stuff I knew I’d be using a lot and immediately… the rest of the boxes I put in the empty bedroom that way I don’t have to look at them daily and I can go through it and put it up as I find the time. It’s helped…

    Hope things calm down for you and just remember why you’re moving – obviously there were more pros on that side of the list than cons, eh?
    Kat recently posted..flowing with the river of life


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