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A Break-Up Letter to Self-Doubt

May 9, 2012 6 Comments by Ashley @ Nourishing the Soul

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Dear Self-Doubt,

You and I are so over. I know that you’ve known we’ve been on the rocks for a while, but it’s finally time to pony up and get off the pot (do you like the mixed metaphor?).

I think I’ve known you’ve been holding me back for a while. In the beginning, I was so hooked into you. Co-dependent really. I’d try to venture out on my own, assert my independence, and you would just show up! I never invited you. You just took it upon yourself to bring your sorry butt along.

Well, I’m tired of uninvited guests. Sometimes, I just want to be by myself. Or I want to be able to hang out with my friends without you distracting me. You’ve always been too possessive.

For a long time, I thought I could keep you around and just see you on occasion. But I’m realizing that our relationship just doesn’t work like that. When we’re together, you seem to have all of me and I can’t even think straight. I get so caught into what you are telling me that my own voice is drowned out.

I just can’t go on like this. There’s too much that I want to do. I want to learn to sing (no, like really sing). You always told me my voice was like nails on a chalkboard. Well, that’s crap. I want to write a book. You always told me that there’s no way to get published in this day and age. I call your bluff. I want to walk confidently into any room. You told me that I should look at the floor and avoid eye contact. How could I have listened to you!

I know it sounds cliché, but I’m sure that you’ll find someone much better suited for you. Someone who doesn’t realize what an amazing woman she is. Someone who needs you more than I do and can be as attached to you as you are to me.

Me? I’ll be okay. I’m ready for this change. I might grieve a little – I mean, you’ve been a pretty big part of my life for a while – but I’ll be just fine in the end. In fact, I have no doubt.

Love,

Me

This was super fun to write! Feel free to adapt, or write your own! 

What would you say to self-doubt? 

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5 Comments

  1. Claire
    380 days ago

    It was an influential post. Thanks for sharing these with us. Looking forward for more awesome blog.
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  2. Frances B
    380 days ago

    This is a very great post! I love the way you have written it. Self-doubt is really something we should get rid off. Did you feel a lot better after doing this? I hope so!

    Thanks for sharing!

    -Frances
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  3. Barry
    379 days ago

    I love the way you have written it. Self-doubt is really something we should get rid off.
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  4. Lori Lieberman, RD, CDE, MPH, LDN
    377 days ago

    So creative! I love this strategy of personifying a part of ourselves–be in ED or Self Doubt. Such a useful tool to separate out the part of us we reject, that we’d like to discard.
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  5. Jenny Seawell
    377 days ago

    I should probably write a letter just like what you did. My problem is I always plan and those are really good plans, to be honest. My enemy is myself and my self doubt. I would recoil whenever something, even a single mistake, would occur on my way to actually making it happen.
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